Let's face it. Some of you are born flirts, and some of you have to learn it the hard way. For those of you who are new to the game of flirting or who simply want to sharpen your skills don't worry. Flirting is a basic instinct and once you wake it up, watch out! In fact, you might already be flirting and not even know it!
Plenty of men and women have gone before you in this battle of romance and have learned the secrets of love- how to find it, how to sustain it, and how to keep that fire of romance burning. The secret ingredient to all of these is simply the fine art of flirting.
Flirting with someone is fun and it is the best way to get their attention, hold their attention, and let them know that you are definitely interested in them. Flirting involves both verbal and non-verbal communication. The trick to successful flirting is to understand the unwritten rules, to realize the necessity of using both forms of communication, and to practice persistence.
Since guys often mistake casual flirting for sexual flirting, it is important that you tone it down if this is not your intent. Remember that there are two essential forms of flirting- flirting for fun and flirting with intent.
If you want to catch the eye of someone special, a glance is all that it takes. If you make eye contact, hold his gaze for a second and then look away. Glance back at him again briefly. If he holds your gaze, glances back for a second look, or smiles, then you have achieved success.
Remember not to stare at him, because staring can be interpreted as a negative behavior. You want to make him realize that you are interested with a short and simple glance. You do not want to make him wonder what he did wrong to cause you to stare.
Once you initiate verbal contact to make your interest known, use body gestures and posture to reinforce your intentions. Tilt your head slightly to the left when he is speaking to portray interest. Clap your hands in silent delight at something amusing that he says or raise an eyebrow slightly in surprise. Stand near him without actually touching him in the beginning.
It isn't so much what you say, but how you say it that is important. Use a tone of voice that mimics your intent coupled with hand gestures, facial expressions, and a body posture that indicates your openness to continuing the relationship. By all means, have fun with flirting and enjoy attracting your intended interest.